Have you ever been walking down the street, feeling rather good about yourself, and you’ve noticed some guy sitting at the lights watching you? You think to yourself – he’s totally checking me out because I’m hot.
A couple of days later, you feel like shit. You’re walking down the same street and see the same guy in the same car doing the same thing. You think to yourself – he’s grossing out because I’m a total bush pig.
Exactly the same situation, the only thing that changes are the thoughts in your head. The truth is he could be thinking you’re hot, he could be thinking you’re a bush pig, he could be staring idly into space while he thinks about shoes with zippers, he could be wondering where you got those fabulous shoes and do they come in his size.
So often we put thoughts into other people’s heads. We second guess their reactions to us based on nothing much, just a reflection of our own opinion of ourselves.
It’s easy to say we don’t care what other people think of us but I don’t know… I think it’s only human to want to be liked and admired and found attractive. It’s hard coded into our DNA, survival of the species and all that. At the same time we seldom get an honest opinion – some people (the good ones) are happy to tell us we look fabulous all the time, others can only see our faults. Even when you look in the mirror, your view is distorted – it’s so easy to focus on the bad bits or the good bits, not all the bits at once. And so much of what makes us look good can’t be seen in the mirror. It’s in the attitude, the way we move and the way we respond to others.
I read a quote from a wise woman the other day – ‘My only goal is dress cute and not look like everybody else’. Well okay, it wasn’t a wise woman, it was Paris Hilton. But, say what you like about the girl, she really does know how to flaunt what she’s got and convince the world through the force of her personality that she’s hot.
My goal for the week is to be gorgeous – convince myself and convince the world.