Is it an insult to call someone fat? I’ve been thinking about this lately. You can say someone is tall or short or skinny but call them fat and them’s fighin’ words. It doesn’t help that the word fat is often paired with ‘cow’ or ‘bitch’ or ‘slut’.
Why has fat become so emotionally charged? It’s like the most cardinal of sins in this world is to be overweight. You hear it all the time – I might be a selfish, puppy-dog-hating, klepto crack whore, but at least I’m not fat.
Personally I’d rather be called fat than any of the other eupherisms – heavy, big, pleasant plump — arrgghh, spare me!
Bitching about fat seems to go in direct proportion to actual fat. At a size 26, I thought I could ignore my size and no one else would notice. Now I’m happy to proclaim to the world that I’m having a fat day. If I were ever to become a size 6, I’d never shut up about how fat I am. Some people think this is because women are never happy with their bodies, but I think it’s because you can’t admit to being fat unless you aren’t.
At a size 26, the most traumatic event in my life was someone commenting on my size. Even if it was totally justified. I remember going skiing and not being about to get a ski suit to fit. If I’d been too tall for them, no drama. But I was just too fat. I hated the people in the shop, because they insulted me!
Another time I was checking the clothing sizes for a giveaway in a magazine and the largest was XL (14-16). They insulted me.
If I tried to squeeze into a booth in a cafe and couldn’t fit, it was an insult to me. Not to mention airline seatbelts and dodgem car rides and anyone who randomly mentioned my weight.
I’d get that prickly eye feeling and that prickly throat. I’d feel like my innards had turned into a black hole trying to suck the rest of me through.
But it’s not personal. It’s not something someone has purposely set up to humiliate me. I’m sure if i were 4 foot nothing, I’d have similar problems in a world where one size doesn’t fit all.
I have all manner of problems getting hats to fit because I have a bizarrely small head but I don’t take that as an insult.
Fat, is it wrong? Really?